As my wife is taking some masters classes in counseling we have been discussing the family relationship that we have with each other and our two sons. As she has been reading about family counseling she informed me about something that we can apply not only in the relationships we have with our peers, our spouses, but as important, our children. Are you frustrated with how things are going with your kids? Are you at the end of the road as you know it? Do you wish your relationship could change with your kids? Then here is what I suggest...or really what the family counseling book suggests. Look at yourself first, see what you can change first,then watch your children follow suite. It may not be overnight, but it's worth a shot.
My two year old will take you to the limits inside the walls of our house. With the suggestion of the family counseling book (the textbook) we are trying to see what we as parents can change to make his response more pleasant, therefore, easier on us. Thankfully, when this step is put into practice, he actually does better.
Parenting is hard work. I don't think anyone has it totally figured out. Our responsibility is to continue to try as hard as we can, even when we want to give up.
I pray for you as a parent and we, as a church, want to do everything we can to support you.
Prayers,
Matt